strong?

have u ever feel that u are a very strong person?

yes, we are all very strong or should i say, we could be strong.

being strong is an option. we can choose whether to be or not to be. as a human, we are not prone to obstacles or challenges in life. these things are the one that keep pushing us, distracting our progress in life sometimes and wanting us to be strong!

but, not everyone has the courage to stand up and fight. i believe that is because there is no one to guide them whenever they are down. anyway, i'm thinking of sharing some of my thoughts regarding this issue. i love to read motivational and self inspirational books. so, here are the compilation of here and there, of what i found and been practiced and also, some of the advices that i had shared with friends.

1. get back to Allah

this is always my 1st step whenever someone is in the hard condition. to some people, this might not relevant as people nowadays are usually those who believe only what they have seen. i am not against it neither supporting it. it is an individual opinion.

as for myself, it must be an advantage since i have got more exposure in the religious issue during my early childhood. no, my parents are not those religious people. i mean, they are religious, but not those with the title as religiuos people. not ustaz or ustazah. however, my mom loved to watch those islamic tv shows especially ehwal islam and the one before friday prayers on tv3. so, she knows many religious things from there and being a mom, she would share everything that she got from the show to us. that is probably the starting point.

besides, being close with my religious teacher(s) was probably another advantage.

so, those probably the things that shaping the way i see my world. alhamdulillah, the hidayah is still with me and i pray that it is forever with me until the end of my life.

back to the topic, people nowadays only believe what can be seen by their eyes. if not, they would just say it is a lie. well well...

"can u feel the air? "

"yes"

"can u see it?"

"no"

"so, whats the different?'

same here. when we get back to Allah, we definitely gonna get the response. it is just the matter we are able to see it or not. usually, u need to use your 'mata hati', rather than your normal eyes.

2. ask for help!

there must be reasons for all of us to be here, to live in this world together, not just by our own. i know, for some, we prefer to stay away from everyone around us. or just like those matsalleh always said;

"mind your own business"

it is true. why shouldt we care about others if no one care about us? you live your own life, and i'll handle mine.

but that is not always the case.

1. in school, our teacher keep telling us to work in group. when we work in group, we share all the burdens together.

2. same thing happen in work. we work together with our colleagues. we share all the burdens together.

so, as for these two cases, working together is always the best option.

" we share all the burdens together"

but wait, that only happen, if and only if, we managed to find good group members or good colleagues. but how are we gonna determine that?

they are those who managed to understand us better. this is very complex as not everyone could understand all the people. it takes time for us to discover.

but then, for some, there are people with this specialty. they know of what to say and where to say. sometimes, they are able to come out with the options that are not in our mind at all. something that is outside of the box. something that we cannot see, but clearly visible to them.

as for me, that person is always my mom. eventhough her academic background stopped after SPM, but that is not the measuring point. sometimes, even a small kid is able to come out with better solution than the adults. remember Hang Nadim? Singapura di langgar todak? this is what i called as God's gift!

so, my point here is, if u are down, go share it with someone else. someone that understand u and someone that you trust. tell them all your worries. ask for help. then listen to what they say before start applying it into your current condition. just remember, whenever we are down, we are at the bottom of our rationality. that's why we need someone else's opinion to help us to get back on track.

3. mind set

this is the last thing that we should do. mind set is the most powerful things that every human has.

what made Einstein's a great person? it is his mindset. he set himself to be a great person.

what made Siti Nurhaliza a great singer? it is her mindset and disciplines.

what made Donald Trump a successful industrialist in real estate development? it is his mindset and disciplines too!

so, here if we set our mindset to be a successful person, and disciplined ourselves, insyaAllah we are able to achieve anything in life. dont look small on the power on mindset. it could do more of what the computer can do. it gives us the freedom of thinking which is the computer does not have.

therefore, to be a strong person, we need to set our mindset to become a strong person. keep telling yourself that you can do it. tell it more everyday. so that in the end, it would become a habit where you dont have to remind yourself about it anymore.