diamond

"challenges are there to be faced, not for us to run away"

My architecture friend texted me saying that this is the first time he felt that design has really made him nervous. He was unsure of what to do and to expect.

I texted back,

"pressure makes charcoal a diamond and you are about to become a diamond"

I explained that all these are happening for his own good. This is a stage of where a beginner is turning into an a non-beginner. A process that is preparing someone to become a better person. And he should be grateful to be given that experience at his early life.

But that was not always the story. Some people are just love to stay within their comfort zone. That is good if you are thinking that life is always fill with happy times. However, the reality is far more HAZARDOUS.

so whats the step in preparing for those 'inhuman' stage of life?

"it is all about your MINDSET"

K

one story

a friend of mine came to me and told me a story. so this is basically a story within a story of someone's story.

let us just call that friend of mine as K

K rang me just to tell about his current unsatisfactorily towards one of his friend.

He said that his friend was asking for his advice since his friend is having a problem of what should be done with his own problem.

K was warm heartedly try to help by giving his opinion. He tried his best, giving all out just wanna make sure that his friend would find the solution in the end. At the mean time, K was actually working on one of his major assignment which was due the day after. But then, thinking about the friendship and how he treasures the friendship very much, he put the assgnmnt aside, with the hope he would be able to comfort his friend.

K gave his advice but his friends seemed didnt like it, and straight away left K without any specific reason. That was weird. K knew that his friend was not on the right state, however, by behaving in such ways, that was definitely RUDE!

K was peace off. Later in the next day, he found out that his friend was talking bad about him, complaining about he was not being RATIONAL. K advice was not suitable with his friends' current condition at that particular moment.

That was really hurting K. He didnt asked for anything. His intentioned was to help and comfort but then, that was not what had been seen by his friend. To make it worst, it was the other way round. His friend still think that he is right, eventhough he is not without him realizing it.

I know that for some people, they only care about themselves. IT IS ALL ABOUT THEM. Everyone need to care them, need to look after them and need to be there for them while that was not happen in return. But that is still ok. What make it worst, when you are asking help from someone, please respect the person who is willing to help you. The word RESPECT might look simple, but it is really hard to be put in one's life. They might take thing for granted but please remember, you are dealing with human. And human DO HAVE FEELING.

Anyway, as for K's case, I just told him to be more patient. Maybe what he can do is try to stay away from his friend until he is already cooling down. But then, in the future, if his friend is asking for his help, K probably should try to avoid it. Knowing his friend, it is better for K to reserve his words rather than being hurt for the 2nd time.

K asked how should this case to be resolved?

"Forgiveness"

Mutual

Sometimes, when u think that u are right, think again. There's a probability that you are at the other side of what u thinking u are. Have a second thought. Or prolly 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc. And the probability is getting higher if u are the one who always cause the problems. You should know yourself better. By thinking that u are always at the right container would not bring u anywhere. In fact, it prolly gonna be demolishing something that is good for you.

On the second thought, always bear in mind that if something is wrong with someone, it is prolly got something to do with what u have done. Especially when it is involving 2 parties, if the other party is having a drastically changes, behaving abnormally without any specific reason that u know, open your eyes and look at your surrounding. Is the person strangely acting only to u or doing the same to the others. The answer is simple, if the others are saying the same, that means that person is in BIG problems. However, if it is only u who had that strange feeling, u definitely GOT ISSUES!

Relax, Reflect and Resolve!

Bubble yum

Its yummilicious!

Woohhoo

Hi dah lama tak melawat. So nk jenguk muka sekejap. Btw, nak promote nih. Auuuum


Sedap sehingga menjilat kaki. Cubalah! Murah pon murah. Aud1.50 untk 1 box. Ada 25 packets! So tak payah la byk2 minum kopi. Very thick. Try tea, less thick but menawannnnnnnn...